They say that men are like waffles; women are like spaghetti. Men can easily compartmentalize things while women tend to connect and intertwine every thought, event, and action like a big ole pile of slippery spaghetti.
It seems like everyone from your mother to your mechanic has advice to offer on a daily basis. We love to criticize the media for their role in negatively impacting our self-esteem but the same barrage of criticism in the form of advice often comes from the pulpit, the women’s Bible study, and our own posts on social media. And not all criticism is bad. Constructive criticism has saved me from many poor decisions. Yet, how do I sift through the onslaught of advice I receive every day?
I wish I was a waffle.
But I’m not. It takes me forever to detangle the mess of critical remarks that the world throws my way… especially when they are conflicting comments. You know exactly what I’m talking about.
*It’s good to get up early before your children so you can pray, spend time with the Lord, and enjoy alone time before your day begins.
**A tired mommy does nobody any good. Get plenty of rest so that you can be the mom they need.
*We need to cleanse our bodies from the impurities that we put in them. It’s important to drink water, eat healthy foods, and get plenty of exercise every day.
**It’s harmful to compare ourselves to others. Be happy with who you are and what you look like. We can’t all be a size 4. Embrace your body the way it is and stop living for the acceptance of others. Besides, God loves you just the way you are.
*If you make a commitment, you should keep it.
**Your family should always come first. If they need you, you should break all other commitments.
*It’s our job, as parents, to protect our kids from the outside world.
**If we shelter our children, we are not providing them with opportunities to learn and grow.
I could go on and on, but you get the idea.
That’s why it’s so important to have Truth to filter such comments through. While it’s certainly a blessing to have experts in the fields of medicine, marriage, health, children, employment, and so on, there’s only one Expert that I know will never give me conflicting advice.
It’s not easy to know what to do. It’s not easy to make decisions as a mother, a wife, a woman. It’s not easy to muddle through the piles of advice we receive every day and to clearly discern which advice is worth applying to our lives and which advice should line the bottom of the bird cage.
And often both sides of conflicting advice are good…. given the right circumstances.
Only God knows the plan He has for our lives. So ultimately, it should only be Him that we seek when we are unsure of what to do.
Only he can make a waffle decision out of my pile of spaghetti.